Friend had interest in God, got involved in Bible study and content, but after a year claims to be too busy to continue.

Q: At what point do you shake your sandals off and keep walking? I had a friend come to me and want to learn about God almost a year ago. She was on fire, listening to tons of podcasts, reading the bible with me, meeting on a monthly call to ask me questions. 

Once she started reading the Bible with me, she started with the Old Testamant and had qualms with "God's ego/jealousy," so we switched to the gospels. 

She has read 3/4 of the gospels and completly lost steam over the summer - too "busy" to read the Bible. She also complains about Chrsitianity/politics. She has been healing her depression/anxiety with thearpy and SSRI's and when I said God is helping her improve, she said "But what if it's actually just me and the things I'm doing?".

She still gets on our montly calls (hardly wants to talk about God anymore), and I've felt that I should keep doing them until SHE decides not to... but I'm exhausted. It's really hard to constatnly hear complaining, see her disintrest, almost feels like she's mocking my beliefs at times.

I see that the noise in the world has pulled her back away from God yet she still keeps asking VERY little questions about Him. I feel like I'm losing steam here though... it's been almost a whole year and has not come to Jesus. 

When can you finally say, okay, dusting my shoes off and moving on?

A: We never dust feet off. That's a wrong interpretation of what that verse means.

We minister. But tbvh believers need to stop bejng chickens and do what Jrsus called us to do... proclaim the Gospel. We need to start with sharing the Gospel as first thing, not dancing around it and doing a million ither things, mor leaving them to the pastor hoping theyll hear thd Gospel from the pulpit. 

Nothing else will take the place of the Gospel and God converting them. Until theyre saved, they have no real (new nature) desires towards the Scriptures, cuz theyre spiritually dead. You do, so you desire it, but you cant confuse the nature of those lost and those saved. They dont really have interest. 

When she wanted to learn about God a year ago, you shouldve started at the Gospel... by explaining the Essentials & then The Gospel. 

The next time you meet up, intentionally, and do that. Tell her "Its great you've put a lot of effort into reading Scripture and showing interest." 

While going through these studies, did you notice them teaching these things? 

[If not, she just learned them, plus its helpful for where the convo is leading]. 

Then move to....

"Btw, did you know: In the OT God promised to destroy the power of death. & the NT tells how he did it?"

She will say no, I didn't know that. 

Follow up with...

"Do you know what the Bible is all about?" 

"In the OT God promised a Savior to take away the sins of humans, the NT tells how He did it. The Bible is about man's redemption, through Jesus"....

* [youre repeating the same thing, but with intention of swinging to the Gospel here...]

Go directly to this video once you say the above. 

"Check this out..." [show/play the NeedGod.com video] 

then kindly say...

"Have you ever understood the Gospel - so clearly before?" 

Then basically ask "if she wants to get right with God. To surrender her life to God, by obeying the Gospel." If yes, In prayer to God, tell her to Repent of her sins and Trust in Jesus. Then pray over her. 

If she wants to delay, ask if its possible she could die today or tonight? Then circle back to how urgent it is to get this matter settled today. 

After praying, 

Guide her to a solid Bible focused church, to get discipled, baptized, and to help her live a holy life. If not your church, the directory here can help her find one. 

God bless

Clarifications:

Dusting feet off

In this situation,“dusting your feet” (Matthew 10:14; Luke 9:5) wont be for severing. 

The verses/action is a declaration of gospel responsibility, not personal relational severance.

It’s a judicial testimony before God: the responsibility for rejection rests on the hearer, while the messenger continues in love and prayer, to minister when possible, while trusting God to work.

The context matters. 

1. Public or hostile rejection – “dusting your feet” applies more like the biblical case: when someone is actively hostile, hateful, or closed off, the believer’s responsibility is to speak truth faithfully and leave the matter with God. There’s no ongoing relational expectation; further engagement is futile and can be spiritually harmful.

2. Close relationships – For family, friends, neighbors, or colleagues who are not wholly hardened, theres patient, ongoing ministry (cf. Galatians 6:1, 2 Timothy 2:24–26). You may need to confront sin or call to repentance multiple times, but you continue to invest relationally, trusting the Spirit to work. Your heart and soul care continue, desiring to see them saved. 

So, dusting one’s feet is not a universal “cut them off” rule; it’s a situational tool for faithful witness when dialogue is closed, not a license to abandon relational care where gospel fruit is still possible.

Jealousy 

God's Jealousy isnt like sinful fallen man's type of Jealousy. 

God’s jealousy is connected to His character & nature [all his attributes working equally together]. So His is Jealousy is holy, righteous, and protective, whereas human jealousy is sinful, selfish, & in insecurity.

God’s jealousy arises from His perfect love and justice. He desires exclusive worship and obedience because sin harms His creation and rebels against His glory (Exodus 34:14; Deuteronomy 4:24). It is never petty or self-serving, but always aimed at covenant faithfulness and the good of "His" people.

Human jealousy is rooted in pride, fear, or envy, seeking personal advantage or resenting what others have. It often leads to sin (James 3:16). It is always sin based.

So when Scripture says God is “jealous,” it’s not an emotional instability like ours—it’s His covenantal zeal for righteousness and love for His people, always perfectly aligned with His character.